Identity & Relationships - Lelah Nichol, LCSW

Identity & Relationships Therapy in San Anselmo, CA

Finding Yourself, Finding Connection

Questions of identity and relationships can feel deeply unsettling. You may wonder: Who am I, really? How do I want to live? Why do I keep repeating patterns in relationships that don’t serve me?

When identity feels unclear, or relationships feel strained, it can leave you feeling disconnected—from yourself, from others, and from the life you want to live. Therapy offers a space to explore these questions with compassion, curiosity, and clarity.

Are You Struggling With:

Feeling pulled between who others want you to be and who you truly are?
Questioning your gender identity, sexual orientation, or cultural identity?
Struggling with family dynamics, conflict, or generational patterns?
Repeating cycles in relationships—choosing partners who aren’t good for you, or feeling stuck in unhealthy dynamics?
Feeling misunderstood, isolated, or disconnected in your closest relationships?

Why Identity & Relationships Matter

Our sense of self and the way we connect with others are at the heart of emotional well-being. When we feel unsure of who we are—or keep getting stuck in unhelpful patterns with others—it can touch every part of our lives.

Therapy provides a safe place to understand your story, explore your patterns, and connect more deeply to your authentic self. From there, relationships can become healthier, more balanced, and more fulfilling.

My Approach

I use an integrative approach grounded in Internal Family Systems (IFS), attachment-based therapy, and mindfulness.

Together we will:

Explore the parts of you that feel conflicted, ashamed, or disconnected.
Build compassion and self-trust, so you can feel more grounded in who you are.
Identify relationship patterns and practice healthier ways of connecting.
Support you in bringing authenticity and clarity into your closest relationships.

Clients often share that through therapy they:

What Healing Can Look Like

Go from feeling this to this:

From This:

To This

Clearer about your identity and values
Able to build healthier, more fulfilling relationships
Seen, understood, and connected
More confident and compassionate toward yourself
Living with greater authenticity and ease

“Our relationships are only as healthy as the parts of us that show up in them.” – Adapted from Internal Family Systems principles

A Quote for Inspiration

You don’t have to navigate these questions alone.

Therapy can help you find clarity within yourself and build more fulfilling relationships.